tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post4714906549853100213..comments2023-11-05T02:40:09.417-05:00Comments on ohdeardrea: ConversationAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04509552311148450540noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-24467310880445759202017-04-18T12:37:29.075-04:002017-04-18T12:37:29.075-04:00Hi Drea! I've been Circling for a couple of ye...Hi Drea! I've been Circling for a couple of years now and it's changed my life. As a shy, self-conscious introverted person who has always thought I might be secretly an extrovert if I could just get a handle on my empathic responses and my fears, the practice of Circling and the skills it brings to be are straight up magical. It'st a highly skilled way of relating that's everything my parents and ask the rest of society never taught me. I love the practice itself, but I've been permanently changed by the communication skills and the internal healing process it's given me! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07421236857460370408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-20176087812562143422017-04-14T09:42:32.906-04:002017-04-14T09:42:32.906-04:00Having to do presentations in grad school all the ...Having to do presentations in grad school all the time has really helped me get comfortable with my voice, confidence, and articulation. Those changes have really carried over into conversations. <br /><br />I've also done almost a month of daily 20 minute guided meditations (I use the calm.com app). Has really really helped slow that overplaying in my head, made me more cognizant of my worrying and made me feel much more comfortable when situations are out of my control... Which is great because I am absolutely a control freak. Something I'm definitely working in :). Highly recommend the app and having it send you a daily reminder! Congrats on all the changes you've already made, just seeing your face more on social media than a few years ago shows you've come a long way. Lkindthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02941217144474846300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-22839733294702000482017-04-14T00:03:11.302-04:002017-04-14T00:03:11.302-04:00I know you mentioned your Meyers Briggs before, ha...I know you mentioned your Meyers Briggs before, have you ever looked up the cognitive functions? Doing that helped me SO much. I'm an INTJ, and I used to get into circles of thinking all the time. Now I know I should just go with my intuition because that's how I make the best decisions. So I generally know that if I'm really struggling over making a life decision that probably means it's not the right one. When it's right I just know it and don't even think about questioning it. :)Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05643165394967295295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-61647612600973312602017-04-13T21:46:15.941-04:002017-04-13T21:46:15.941-04:00What do you think helped you most on your journey?...What do you think helped you most on your journey? books? positive self talk? practice? :) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04509552311148450540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-3552593389731227922017-04-13T21:30:51.354-04:002017-04-13T21:30:51.354-04:00Yeah, I'm good with a small circle of people, ...Yeah, I'm good with a small circle of people, but when Theres a big circle, I cannot speak up. They were asking questions yesterday and one question I could have listed ten more answers than were actually given, but I sat quietly, because speaking up (even if Im confident in my answer) is HARD! Oh and I am sooo bad at small talk. Alex calls me out on it all the time. I get SO awkward, haha.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04509552311148450540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-86927593180640150522017-04-13T21:29:18.379-04:002017-04-13T21:29:18.379-04:00Well, heres where it gets complicated--- I do like...Well, heres where it gets complicated--- I do like spontaneity (from others) in certain cases! Or I'm at the veery least okay and ready for it! But I think thats because I grew up with my dad who would be like, "get in the car!" and for an hour or two or three or way longer my brother and I would be like, "where the hell are we going!?" and he'd almost never tell us. Then we'd end up in Disney world or some snorkeling trip or some other random place he decided to surprise us with. So now, I'm like, alright alright--- I'll get in the car-- show me an adventure. I just would like to know how long we're gone and that were actually going so I can bring clothes, haha. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04509552311148450540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-35117257322756316732017-04-13T21:26:59.660-04:002017-04-13T21:26:59.660-04:00I sometimessss struggle with it. Not often, but be...I sometimessss struggle with it. Not often, but because I am constantly making an effort to not do it. Alex is that person, 100%. I used to take it sooo personally, until I realized thats how he is with everyone in every conversation. And small talk issss hard. <br /><br />I get dressed without checking weather-- but bring three alternate options in case the weather changes--- I wonder what that says about me? haha. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04509552311148450540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-40389325270441826282017-04-13T21:25:29.219-04:002017-04-13T21:25:29.219-04:00oh jeez I know. oh jeez I know. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04509552311148450540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-83067343384274473232017-04-13T21:25:18.442-04:002017-04-13T21:25:18.442-04:00yay confusing brains!
Oh I totallyyyyy anticipate...yay confusing brains!<br /><br />Oh I totallyyyyy anticipate conversations before they happen. I have full blown two sided conversations in my head on how I think something might or should go :) For me it's def. a prepared thing :) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04509552311148450540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-26510993421226504142017-04-13T21:24:12.714-04:002017-04-13T21:24:12.714-04:00exactly-- when it does happen, I either don't ...exactly-- when it does happen, I either don't think about it. much or I know its often times the other person and not necessarily me sucking, haha. Mostly because I know people who do that often--- and not to me, but to everyone. Often time it can be someone else inability to converse and not our own issue. Not always, but often :) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04509552311148450540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-10505320266554450302017-04-13T20:47:26.986-04:002017-04-13T20:47:26.986-04:00Anxiety is such a tough road. Reading this I feel ...Anxiety is such a tough road. Reading this I feel like so much of it relates to 5 years ago me. For me though, I always felt that I was an extrovert inside, I just didn't have the confidence to let that out. These days I'm definitely an extrovert and do things every day that would terrify the old me. It's not always easy, I still back out of events sometimes if the old anxieties creep in or find myself going inward when I'm very stressed or having a tough time in another area of my life but I do feel the way I act reflects how I feel on the inside now. It's been a long journey from being unable to make words come out of my mouth when meeting new people to being able to go to parties alone, not knowing who I'll know there and potentially facing the dreaded small talk and I have a ways to go. But it's good. And congrats for how you've come. XAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07188587902391109000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-57695360856746031222017-04-13T20:46:22.502-04:002017-04-13T20:46:22.502-04:00Anxiety is such a tough road. Reading this I feel ...Anxiety is such a tough road. Reading this I feel like so much of it relates to 5 years ago me. For me though, I always felt that I was an extrovert inside, I just didn't have the confidence to let that out. These days I'm definitely an extrovert and do things every day that would terrify the old me. It's not always easy, I still back out of events sometimes if the old anxieties creep in or find myself going inward when I'm very stressed or having a tough time in another area of my life but I do feel the way I act reflects how I feel on the inside now. It's been a long journey from being unable to make words come out of my mouth when meeting new people to being able to go to parties alone, not knowing who I'll know there and potentially facing the dreaded small talk and I have a ways to go. But it's good. And congrats for how you've come. XAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07188587902391109000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-48937515312124251072017-04-13T16:59:33.604-04:002017-04-13T16:59:33.604-04:00I can relate to this on so many levels. I used to ...I can relate to this on so many levels. I used to dread having conversations with people. Like being in a room with so many people..who do I talk to? what do I say? am I interesting enough? And I just am a quieter person so sometimes I feel like more outspoken people just take the reign in conversations even when I do have things to say. But through practice with people close to me and therapy for anxiety I have learned to be better at conversing and opening up-and it feels SO good when I can be open with people. But I do NOT like small talk. It makes me anxious and feel super awkward (which I totally am). Merchyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07228373272863735215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-1600094895408337682017-04-13T16:55:07.702-04:002017-04-13T16:55:07.702-04:00Not liking surprises, but being impulsive and havi...Not liking surprises, but being impulsive and having certain anxieties are not contradictory at all--in all cases it is about you being in and having control. You seem like someone who needs to have a lot of control over your situation (what the weather is like, what you are eating etc). Probably you would be less down with spontaneity if you weren't the one making the choices...Lindsay Q.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15046466666867462959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-41506138021732231062017-04-13T15:05:41.745-04:002017-04-13T15:05:41.745-04:00I AM the person who loses focus...��I work hard to...I AM the person who loses focus...��I work hard to find interesting whatever I am being told but it is hard. I used to be very bad at small talk and having children madre me work hard on it.<br />I get bored with small talk but talk to me about something that is important to you and I am a very good listener. I hate talking about the weather, I do not care about the weather. I get dressed without checking the weather forecast.Leirehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02076943816131131306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-62740991040395518922017-04-13T14:30:24.574-04:002017-04-13T14:30:24.574-04:00You are such a Pisces! Geez. ;) You are such a Pisces! Geez. ;) Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14768415647088619460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-33052216944519650292017-04-13T12:21:45.188-04:002017-04-13T12:21:45.188-04:00I get told my brain is confusing too. I'm an e...I get told my brain is confusing too. I'm an engineer, but live most of my life spontaneously (it appears). Most people don't know that I over think every move before I make it, and that I have super anxiety when things don't go like I think they will. I think I do an ok job of hiding it. <br />I also totally relive conversation in my head, and anticipate conversations before they happen, I like to be prepared I guess? idk, but I totally relate to so much of this. Sweet Love and Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07256847140074894942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5035717604681554803.post-23619149844237240982017-04-13T11:43:40.866-04:002017-04-13T11:43:40.866-04:00"You realize they've lost focus and have ..."You realize they've lost focus and have moved to another topic in their head? I hate that feeling. I never want that feeling If I even think its abut to happen, I get choked up and start tangling my words to shorten my thoughts." YES!!! That is SO annoying. I used to struggle with that ALL THE TIME b/c I felt like everything I said was boring people to death!! I went through therapy (for anxiety) and ended up gaining confidence that what i have to say IS important, b/c I never believed it before. Now I try not to think about it too much.... but mostly just avoid people that do that b/c who needs them anyway!!Sydnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04633582060043087303noreply@blogger.com