So, I think we can all mostly agree that a mustache can feel like a pretty embarrassing or self-conscious thing for a woman to carry. I say mostly, because I'm sure we can go off on a million tangents when it comes to beauty, roles, what makes us woman, how we're made to feel we should look a certain way and how we should be happy with who we are on this inside, whatever/and etc... there are so many sides to all of it. But this post isn't about any of that. This post is about my mustache---- my skin mustache, and how I broke up with it.
I'm not the girliest of girls--- I don't go to extremes for beauty. Getting my nails done is a once a year miracle. I wash my hair once a week--- because it takes too darn long to dry and it's easier for me to put it in a braid. Sometimes I get fancy and put on eye liner. I like when I feel my best. And yes, I like to feel beautiful... and comfortable in my own skin... I mean, we all do, don't we? My mustache and I started our relationsip a few years ago--- it came along with hormone changes and pregnancy. Extra sun (and maybe soy too?!-- but I'm not sure-- so that again is another tangent) would make my mustache more of an encroaching jerk. No amount of makeup would cover it up. And photo editing? Well, I don't know how to do it--- not really anyway, and not at all for mustache removal. It's been uncomfortable for me. Some friends would say they wouldn't notice it. And some would agree it was there. For me, it didn't matter if others could see it or not, I could see it and I didn't like it. Even on my most confident days I would wish for it to go away.
And so we're clear--- we're not talking about hair, there's no real hair on my upper lip, just major skin discolorations. But if I'm being completely honest here (and I think I am--- hello embarssing mustache photos!), my arms are a hairy, hairy beast in themselves. But pregnancy, it cause changes (no duh) and sometimes, for some women, a mustache (or other skin discolorations) is one of them. Growing up I was always a bit self-conscious about the hair on my arms and my self-titled "toilet seat thighs"--- now I could care less. I remember reading one of sark's books--- probably this one--- about Rosie O'donnell--- and her giant long chin hair and how she came out on stage and showed it off to everyone. And I thought, well jeez, that's pretty awesome. I wanted to feel that way--- maybe not about chin hairs, but about all my flaws. And I feel like I pretty much do, especially now. I mean, I come clean on all my flaws (physical and not) pretty openly, especially when asked. But still, even when being forthcoming and okay in my flaws, I wanted--- and preferred this new friendly mustache to go away. (Yes, I like/liked self help books too. They're fun).
I've posted about my mustache twice now (this will be the third time). The first time, I declared I would accept it. The second time, years later, I was working on hormonally fixing it.
So it's gone. And I am pleased (though you won't know I'm pleased by the following photos). I've tried a few different skin lightening products over the past three years--- nothing really worked. But I've taken a few steps in the past six months that have absolutely worked. I still take maca for my hormones--- not everyday, but one to two times a week (read post HERE). I wear sunscreen like it's my job, especially (an extra strength one) on my upper lip and I wear hats often (hello florida sun!). I use a clarisonic on my face, once a day (but not the soap that comes with it).
BUT I think the biggest thing that has made a difference...
A week or so after my second post I received an email about a product to remove it. Vegan, peta approved (if that matters), the whole sh-bang. I said of course, sign me up--- it was worth a shot, right? Now here I am, months later, with my mustache mostly completely gone. It still makes (it's almost completely disappeared) presence known when I get too much sun, but a few days later it clears out again. While my skin may not be completely perfect, for the most part, my mustache is completely gone. It's disappeared enough where I don't think people wonder anymore why I'm not "shaving or waxing my face" and it's gone enough for me to just feel better on the day to day.
Awesome, right? I still like my all natural soap. I don't use the soap that comes with the reverse system---- I thought/felt like it made me break out a bit--- and it seemed like it might be too much while still using the clarisonic. But I use the toner, the reverse cream, and of course the sunscreen everyday. I also finish off my face-clearing routine with my magic butt cream--- because I'm serious, that stuff does wonders!
If you're interested, you can purchase the whole Reverse kit here. It's not tested on animals and it's vegan (well, two products of the whole line are not vegan, but the Reverse kit is completely vegan).... and best of all... it works! And not just on mustaches--- but on any discolorations and scars :) I used only about half of it until the recommended refill time. A little goes a long way. In half the time, it got rid of my dark stache' Is it natural? Err... no, probably not the most natural thing... to be honest, it's probably the most unnatural thing in my home and that I use on my body. But I mean, I make my own deodorant for crying out loud. So on a home scale of natural products---- there's only natural things here and this product is the one odd man out. But I really live by the rule, everything in moderation. And so for me, this works for now and for a little while longer.
There's a few other kit options, if a skin mustache isn't your problem. For Acne, there's Unblemish. For wrinkles and lines, there's REDEFINE. And for redness/senstive skin there is Soothe. I haven't tried the other kits yet--- so I can't tell you "yes they absolutely totally work" but considering how well the one I tried works, I'm guessing they do.
In closing: YAY NO MORE MUSTACHE! I'm still a hairy beast with some (small and proud) mom boobs, zits from time to time, cellulite, etc---- you know----human &full of wonderful flaws and imperfections. And I'm cool with it AND happy my mustache is gone ;)
*I worked long and hard to find photos with my mustache. It's pretty rare that I'm full face in front of the camera (not a selfie girl) and, I mean, really, how often am I going to take face photos with my mustache front and center? Not often... but even now, without it.... don't think I'm going to start taking selfies. It's not gonna happen.
*full disclosure: theres a filter on that last photo, but DO NOT fear---the filter DOES NOT hide a mustache. Filters actually made my mustache SO MUCH WORSE. They would flush things out and contrast my mustache super harsh. (What good are filters if they can't hide blemishes? Pft.)
*I plan on updating my beauty/ body care page soon, but if you're interested, you can check out my past favorite products.